Who it’s for
Partners wanting stronger communication, intimacy, and repair—dating, premarital, married, or separating. Inclusive of queer couples and kink-aware; for multi-partner constellations see the CNM page.

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Common themes

• Communication breakdowns, criticism/defensiveness, withdrawal or stonewalling

• Recurring fights about money, sex, chores, in-laws, or tech/phone use

• Desire discrepancies, performance anxiety, pain with sex, porn conflicts

• Jealousy, trust erosion, and affair/rupture recovery

• Life transitions: moving, marriage, having kids, loss, new jobs/cities

• Mental health, neurodiversity, or addiction recovery impacting the relationship (clear relapse-prevention boundaries and sober-sex plans when relevant)

• Value or culture/religion differences; repair after microaggressions

• Power dynamics, boundaries, and (if present) kink/D-s negotiation

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Goals

• Learn a conflict map you both understand and can de-escalate

• Repair injuries and rebuild trust with concrete, trackable steps

• Create a shared language for needs, boundaries, and bids for connection

• Align daily behaviors with shared values, roles, and fair agreements

• Restore play, friendship, eroticism—and a plan to keep it going

 

What sessions look like

• Slowing conflict in the room so each partner actually feels heard

• Micro-skills: timeouts that work, repair scripts, “state of the union” check-ins

• Intimacy work: pressure-off exercises, sensate focus, desire-building routines

• Agreements you can use (roles, money, tech, parenting, extended family)

• Between-session experiments + gentle accountability

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Optional paths

• Premarital / Pre-commitment: values, roles, money, sex, family planning

• Discernment counseling: clarity about staying together vs. separating